To my daughter the day before her birth

September 14, 2016

Dear Max’s sister

Today is the last day I get to feel your flips and whatever else you’re doing in there (sometimes it feels like you’ve somehow learnt your brother’s karate kicks and punches). Like most moms about to give birth, I’m feeling ecstatic-excited-terrified-nervous-teary, and I part want to stop the clock, and part want to propel it.

But we are ready. Yes, the toys have their batteries, the cot is made up, and the nappies are neatly stacked up on your new compactum. But our readiness goes beyond the nursery and the sterilised feeding equipment and the rest of the stuff that sometimes makes us feel like we’re all prepared. We’re ready to parent you. We’re ready to nurture, support, teach and protect you to the best of our ability and capacity, and all I can do is hope it’s enough, and keep trying to do it better.

This pregnancy has been a gift, and I thank you for choosing us as your parents. You have already healed me in so many ways, and mended a big hole, and given me so much to propel towards in a year that I imagine would have been empty and a little darker without your arrival. This pregnancy came swiftly, and for a number of reasons, I thought it would have been a longer waiting game, and maybe even an endless one.

Before your brother was born, I felt that one of my biggest responsibilities was to raise a decent and kind person, and I think we achieved that. The certificates, marks and accolades mean less to me than a kind person who can get on a world that is often cruel and hard, and I have that exact same hope for you. With your father as your teacher and role model, I cannot imagine that you won’t have a huge heart, a strong sense of left and right, and the ability to take the high road without the need for thanks or acknowledgement.

One of the hardest things as a parent is not being able to protect you from the hurts, bumps and pain that come from all corners. I promise though to try and support you when you hurt, ease it to the best of my ability, and let you feel and experience what you need to through it all. I hope to teach you strength to face up to it, and the “weakness” to feel it. My supply of Hello Kitty plasters (or Spider-Man, if you wish) will always be deep, along with hugs, humour and my “famous” ice cream with melted Cadbury Bubbly chocolate sauce, which your brother loves so much.

I can’t wait to meet you tomorrow. You are already so loved, and we are already so changed by you. In the best way.

x Your Mom




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  • Andrea

    Oh my gosh I cant believe it’s nearly time! I’m basically a hormone time-bomb right now so starting my day off with a few tears over this beautiful post – wishing you luck and love for tomorrow, it’s going to be amazing – so happy for you all x

    September 14, 2016 at 8:01 am Reply
    • Tanya Kovarsky

      I’m so excited for you too! I wept as I wrote the post. Though I get teary at anything these days 🙂

      September 14, 2016 at 11:17 am Reply
  • Lorna

    Wow what a beautiful message, all the best can’t wait to see pics and find out her name, love Lorna Pat Errol Madison and Dino xxxx

    September 14, 2016 at 9:50 am Reply
    • Tanya Kovarsky

      Thanks Lorna – I appreciate the comment x

      September 14, 2016 at 11:16 am Reply
  • Sharon

    All the best Tanya, wishing you a life time of happiness for your new daughter and your family.
    Much love.

    September 14, 2016 at 9:56 am Reply
    • Tanya Kovarsky

      Thank you so much Sharon!

      September 14, 2016 at 11:13 am Reply
  • Celeste

    All the very best Tanya, such an awesome post. Such a blessed baby already. Lots of love.

    September 14, 2016 at 10:09 am Reply
    • Tanya Kovarsky

      Thanks Celeste – I appreciate the wishes 🙂

      September 14, 2016 at 11:12 am Reply
  • MeeA

    Ah, so special! Wishing you all the best as you meet your daughter face to face!

    Also, You’re going to have to share that Cadbury Bubbly sauce recipe!

    September 14, 2016 at 10:40 am Reply
    • Tanya Kovarsky

      Thanks so much – I appreciate the wishes x

      September 14, 2016 at 11:11 am Reply
  • Karen at MomAgain@40

    So exciting! Best wishes! Looking forward to see the angel face!

    September 14, 2016 at 11:12 am Reply
    • Tanya Kovarsky

      Thanks so much Karen!

      September 14, 2016 at 11:18 am Reply
  • Chereen

    Wow, Tanya! So exciting! Wishing you, Andrew and Max all of the love as you welcome your brand-new baby into the world tomorrow. I’ll be thinking of you and sending loads of positive vibes and love from Cape Town. Beyond excited for you guys! x

    September 14, 2016 at 1:24 pm Reply
    • Tanya Kovarsky

      Thanks Chereen – I so appreciate the great wishes x

      September 14, 2016 at 2:55 pm Reply
  • Sam

    So much love in one letter. May her birth bring you all much joy and love tomorrow.


    September 14, 2016 at 2:12 pm Reply
    • Tanya Kovarsky

      Thank you hun x

      September 14, 2016 at 2:55 pm Reply
  • lameez

    Your message is so beautifull and so blessed .All the best 🙂

    September 14, 2016 at 2:44 pm Reply
    • Tanya Kovarsky

      Thanks Lameez!

      September 14, 2016 at 2:54 pm Reply
  • Tahra

    Stunning post Tan, good luck for tomorrow, can’t wait to see all the pics :). All the best for your new life as a family of 4 😉

    September 14, 2016 at 3:04 pm Reply
  • Sharleen

    Beautifully written message.
    All the best to you and your family. Such excitement ????

    September 14, 2016 at 10:39 pm Reply
  • Charlie's Bird

    wishing you a safe delivery and contentment in your baby fog…

    September 15, 2016 at 9:02 am Reply
  • MrsFF

    And she is here but this post still made me shed a tear. Can’t wait to see and meet your little girl. She is a special one and would be dearly loved

    September 15, 2016 at 9:36 am Reply
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