30 lessons in 3 years: what motherhood has taught me so far

September 20, 2012

Dear Max

On Saturday you’ll be three, and boy I’m excited (and a little teary too). As most moms do when their children celebrate birthdays, we think back to those nervous and wonderful days before you literally showed face to the world.

And I’m thinking about all that you’ve opened my eyes to, and all that I’ve learnt (aside from some adept one-handed nappy-changing skills). And inspired by Leo Babauta from Zen Habits, here are the 30 life lessons from the last three years.

My 30 lessons in 3 years:

– That loving you is probably the strongest thing I’ve ever felt

– That change is okay

– That I can’t control everything

– That just when I think one thing will happen, another things swoops it off its course

– That nothing hurts as much as your hurt

– That you can never have enough tissues or wipes on hand

– That every management skill I’ve ever learnt counts for nothing when dealing with a toddler negotiation

– That the only way out is through – there are no shortcuts when it comes to parenting, or dealing with crap

– That some things don’t matter as much as they did. And that’s okay

– That a lot of things I thought I knew, I didn’t

– That sometimes the simplest things like jumping on the bed with you count as the most fun ever

– Everything passes

– That poo and vomit have no gross factor after a while

– That routine is great, but so is skipping a bath and a “proper breakfast” in favour of ice cream

– That “family” is often made up of non-blood relatives

– That Lego is one of the most painful things I’ve ever stepped on

– That no matter how many trucks I put away, there will always be one I trip on

– That it’s possible for the heart to widen

– That I’m scared looking after a child

– That not being able to protect you all the time is hard

– That we don’t necessarily become our mothers

– That I don’t need to shout to be heard

– That there is nothing better in the world than being called “mommy”

– That whining can be deafening

– That baby food sometimes tastes pretty good

– That children forgive

– That some boys can’t have enough trucks or diggers

– That some battles are better left unfought

– That I’m very very blessed

– That some of the biggest lessons come from the smallest people

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  • Bernice

    Brilliant article! Made me smile… thanks!

    September 20, 2012 at 8:57 am Reply
  • Denita

    Love that “Sark” quote … I have some of her books, really sweet stuff.

    And happy birthday to Max, you have done a great job T. (My little guy is 4 tomorrow, I am stull gobsmacked at how quickly the time has flown by)

    September 20, 2012 at 9:18 am Reply
    • Tanya Kovarsky

      Thanks Denita! Time fricking flies! Happy (belated) birthday to A!

      September 22, 2012 at 6:42 pm Reply

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