People joke about putting your child’s name down for a school before they’re even born to assure them a place. It’s actually not much of a joke. Many private schools are quite competitive and have more of a demand than a supply, which is why getting your embryo’s/foetus’s/newborn’s/baby’s name on a list is quite a priority.
At the moment, your name isn’t down on any list, and chatting to a mom at school last week, whose daughter your age is down at three nursery schools already, I panicked a little. I’m a bit behind. And the reason I’m behind is not because I’m lazy or haven’t got round to it, it’s because I’m delaying the decision.
I don’t know what the best school is yet, and when I say “best”, I mean “right for us”. I can pro and con every school in our area based on education, location, mix of kids, morals, values and religion. Here’s what worries me about some of the schools we’ve earmarked:
– That you won’t fit in
– That the values and morals of the school don’t match ours
– That they’re too far
– That everyone is of the same religion or similar bank balance
– That you won’t have an everyday Jewish education
– That you will have an everyday Jewish education
And honestly, a lot has to do with my fears of fitting in. Will I have anything in common with the moms at the parties? Will I be self conscious that I can’t compete with house, car and bank balance? Will I match up?
I suspect that as much as I need to trust in what’s out there and do what we think is best at the time, I also need to harden the f*$& up and be the adult, not like the insecure child I might have been at school.
Today we have a meeting at a school nearby. I suspect we’ll put your name on the list, pay the deposit and hope hard that we’re doing the right thing. That’s all we can do, and carry on raising you as best as possible from the home, out.
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