Keep calm, feel, and carry on

March 12, 2012

Dear Max

I used to think that as a parent, I would encourage you to one day ignore when people called you names, teased you or hurt you. I wanted you to be that strong character who would ignore if kids called you a nerd/stupid/fat/thin/loser/moron/poor/rich/non-sporty, and let’s face it, kids can be cruel.

But lately I’ve been thinking that the healthiest approach is to hear, feel, see things in perspective, and then move on. See, I’ve been hurt a little bit recently by other people’s tweets and blog posts and comments, and while I thought I could just ignore and move on, the truth is that I feel deeply, and need to feel in order to get past it.

I think feeling is my part of processing things, and without it, it’s difficult to propel forwards. My advice is to treat harsh words like a wave – let them rise, feel them, and let them wash over when you’re ready. See the wave for what it is and from whence it comes, and stand stronger afterwards.

You’re human. You’re allowed to feel (even as a boy), but pick yourself up when you’re ready and don’t allow others’ dark words determine what you think of yourself. Oh, and make sure you eat your veggies, and carry on being awesome.

Love Mom

 

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13 Comments

  • NickiD

    Love it. I’m still riding the wave of emotion… X

    March 12, 2012 at 7:36 am Reply
  • Lexie

    Great valuable advice T.

    x

    March 12, 2012 at 7:39 am Reply
  • Tamiya

    Beautiful. This is really good advice 🙂

    March 12, 2012 at 8:06 am Reply
  • Kirsty Bisset

    🙂 Lovely words!

    March 12, 2012 at 8:23 am Reply
  • TJ

    So true and very valuable words!

    March 12, 2012 at 10:59 am Reply
  • karen denny

    sound advice. would be really nice if people were less spiteful. and a lot less grumpy. 🙂

    March 12, 2012 at 12:11 pm Reply
  • shane

    thanks for your wise words of advice

    March 12, 2012 at 12:16 pm Reply
  • Cat@jugglingactoflife

    Such very wise words – sorry you got hurt.

    March 12, 2012 at 1:50 pm Reply
  • Sharon

    So very true, but the moving on part can be very hard.

    March 12, 2012 at 2:29 pm Reply
  • Bo

    Great advice. I think the more you confront those feelings and learn to deal with it, the stronger you get. Easier said than done because I think most of us are just like you. It hurts.

    March 13, 2012 at 8:00 am Reply
  • Karen at MomAgain@40

    Sorry to hear about being hurt in virtual world! It “does” hurt!

    March 13, 2012 at 12:33 pm Reply
  • Sam

    I’m sorry you got hurt T. I’ve never met you face to face but you always strike me as someone who is calm and rational under pressure so I’m sorry that you got hurt by whatever happened.

    I too have been deeply hurt by other people’s words on twitter and via the blogosphere but I have put it behind me and have moved forward after much “feeling it”…

    Hope your heart will move forward soon.

    xxx

    March 13, 2012 at 3:40 pm Reply
    • Tanya Kovarsky

      Thank you so much for the awesome words. Btw, I do hope we get to meet soon!

      March 13, 2012 at 7:22 pm Reply

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